Mother’s Day sometimes can be bittersweet, don’t you think?

When I became a mom, this was the day I looked forward to the most, but it wasn’t like the commercials. I will say my kid’s dad did make special days feel special despite every other day feeling invisible. But my ex I am divorcing now, I can’t think of many holidays he was there for me. Usually out getting high and leaving me to handle my own specialness. So, you would think being single for real again it wouldn’t be much different, but it is.

I sit here writing this, and my son came out to say Happy Mother’s Day, and my daughter slept out, not that I expect my day to rest on a 16- and 17-year-old. How do you learn to be content when everything feels like it’s falling apart? Today just feels like another day. Don’t get me wrong, being a mom is the one thing I love more than anything, but it is really lonely when you do it alone. Many nights of crying myself to sleep for so many reasons, but always ensuring they get the best version of me. It is the most unappreciated job, at least when they are younger.

It’s also sad to think I don’t have many more of these days with them at home. Before I know it, they will both be living on their own with their own families. Thinking about that makes me so happy and sad because I know I have messed up as a parent, but damn, I am so proud of the job I have done. They may not be perfect, but they are incredible kids. My daughter is all the best parts of me and more. My son is clearly raised by a single mom, super respectful to women.

I hope significant others and dads realize just how needed this day is. It’s not just about celebrating the moms in your life; it’s about being there for them, showing appreciation, and knowing they are not in this alone. Having a day where those they love the most—those they sacrificed their entire lives for—make them feel like it wasn’t for nothing. We just really want to feel loved and honestly not do anything that day, lol. Men, pamper your woman; they spend the rest of the year taking care of everyone.

Happy Mother’s Day world.